What do you do when things are not working out?



     It's easier to put on a fake smile, than to admit when things are just falling a part or  are not going the way you imagined.

Sometimes, we watch others going through sickness, or some traumas, maybe our own lives have just been one storm after another.

As I was reflecting on some recent sacrifices, I have had to make and some decisions that have made me really question, what is God doing? How do I deal in this process?
How do I tell others what's going on?

It's hard to open up sometimes. I totally get that. If your anything like me, you have built walls up and have a hard time getting to the point of what's really happening.

I also had to learn how to stop letting life affect me and not taking it out on others around me (still learning) but I've realised; I perhaps have taking it too far and dare I say it  I have now become a pretender.

You know how it is, when people ask you, how are you? And you know all the wonderful Christian jargon; by the grace of God I am well, or God is good, things are fine God is with me.

Now don't get me wrong, it all has its place and time but there's nothing wrong with saying actually things are not so great (as long as this doesn't turn into a pity party or you share information with the wrong person) not everyone is for you btw, so you must be able to identify who to talk to or if there are things you are sharing make sure it's the things you are happy discussing to even a stranger just in case it falls into the wrong hands (you never know these days)

Don't bottle things up, and be honest, if something is bothering you. Have someone you can talk to. (taking this advice for myself)
It's so easy to pretend, because people may think were weak, over emotional etc but I have decided that personally I own what I am and I don't care what others think of me.

If you think I am sensitive, then maybe I am but that's just how I handle things and not everyone is the same. Maybe it's an area that is a working process but it doesn't mean you need to deny yourself of that feeling.

The weakest people are the ones that pretend they are strong. They are often the ones that cry the most in secret.

If you think of celebrities that have taken their lives, even in the past few years. You probably thought they were so strong, so loved, so happy with the fame and money.
But we soon learned it was all a pretence.

This is why we must stop pretending.
Let's speak truth, ask someone how they are doing, don't gossip and be sincere.

Spend time with The Lord, He is the only one who can take your cares and burdens.
Don't pretend with God.
God knows if your angry with him, if your sad, tired, broken.

Cast all your anxieties on him for He cares for you
1 Peter 5:7

Jesus loves you
You are valuable and worth more than ten thousand sparrows in God's eyes.

Don't count yourself out, get right with The Lord now before it's too late.


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